5 Ways To Say No Without Saying No.
You need to say no. You know you do. It's the right thing to do, and you'll feel better for it in the long run. But it's so much easier said than done, isn't it? Saying no is hard. It's a lot harder when you have to say no to someone you really care about, or when you have to decline an invitation that would be fun but is just not in your budget.
But you know what the worst part is. The worst part is that when you do say no, the other person may get upset. The other person may feel like you don't want to spend time with them, or that you don't want to do what they're asking.
Say you’re busy.
I don’t know how many times I’ve heard people say “yes” to something they really didn’t want to do, and then be miserable about it. If you can, say you’re busy. You don’t have to give a reason; just say that you are too busy for this commitment. You can also try saying that you need to think about it, or that you need more information. Saying no outright is sometimes the best option, but if you can find a way to avoid saying no without saying no, it can save you some stress in the long run.
Say you’re not interested.
The first thing you should do is be honest. Being honest with someone seems to be harder for some people than most. If you're not interested, just say so. There are other people that will take the offer, and it's better to let them know up front that you're not interested. It may seem harsh to say your not interested but let's face it, It's the truth.
You can also say that you're not in a position to take on the project or responsibility at this time. If you are interested but don't have the time, offer to help out in other ways. For example, if someone asks you to volunteer for their event, tell them that you'll donate money or supplies instead. It's important to be polite when declining an offer, you never know if you may need their help in the future. Don't burn bridges when declining an offer, but it's also important to be honest.
Say you’re not qualified.
This is a great option if you want to say no without hurting the other person’s feelings. It’s also a good way to save time and energy for yourself. If you’re not qualified for something, there’s no point in trying to do it. You can share this information with someone who has asked you to do something and you don’t want to do.
* Be honest with yourself. Many of us stress ourselves out because we feel obligated to do something because someone asked us for help. Sometimes it's not in your power or skill set to help. So be honest with yourself and them and let them know before you make things worst for yourself and them.
Say you need more information.
If you are asked to do something that you are not sure about, ask for more information. You can say that you need to think about it or that you need to talk with someone else before making a decision. This way, you don't have to outright say no and hurt someone's feelings. Understand though hurting feelings is sometimes not your fault. Getting more information will empower you to make an informative decision in saying no.
Another way to say no is to say yes, but not right now. I would not advise this method but some people just can't take no for an answer and need to hear a yes. I know it sounds funny but some people are a pain and no matter how you say no they continue to press until they get that yes. Saying yes, but not right now; has help me a lot with sales people and is effective in some cases.
Say you’ll get back to them.
Saying no is hard. It can make you feel like you’re letting people down, and it may even make you feel guilty. Stop feeling guilty. They will learn to get over it eventually. But there are other ways to say no without actually saying no. One way is to say you’ll get back to them. This will give you time to think about whether or not you want to do something, and it will also give the other person time to come up with a solution.
Another option is to ask the person what they want from you. This will make them think about their request and may spark an idea for how to work around your schedule. If you still need some time, try saying that you need more information before making a decision.
If you’re not sure how to say no, try asking the person to help you come up with an alternative. Make things easier on yourself and learn to say no and mean it. Many times it gets harder with love ones, family, and friends but you have to learn the art of saying no before you are rundown into the ground and tired.